The Spotlight Of Love

 
Imagine your relationship as a movie. Are you the leading man, central to the plot, or just a fleeting cameo in her story? In today’s world of ambiguous connections and casual dating, it’s easy to wonder where you stand. Let’s explore the signs that reveal whether you’re the star of her love story or merely a background character.  

Signs You’re the Main Man
1. Consistent Communication
   She prioritizes you. Texts aren’t sporadic; calls aren’t an afterthought. You’re the first person she shares news with, good or bad.  

2. You’re a Priority, Not an Option
   Plans are made *with* you, not *around* her schedule. She cancels girls’ night to nurse your flu? That’s main character energy.  

3. Future Plans Include You
   Conversations about vacations, holidays, or career goals naturally involve “we.” You’re woven into her long-term vision.  

4. Exclusivity Isn’t a Question
   There’s no guesswork. You’ve had the “what are we?” talk, and her actions match her words. No cryptic social media behavior.  

5. Emotional Investment
   She supports your dreams, listens deeply, and leans on you in tough times. Vulnerability flows both ways.  

Signs You’re an Extra
1. Breadcrumbing Communication
   Replies take days, and plans are last-minute. You’re the backup when her “main” plans fall through.  

2. Vague Labels
   “I’m not ready for a relationship” or “Let’s keep it casual” are her mantras. You’re left parsing mixed signals.  

3. Secretive Behavior
   You’ve never met her friends, and her Instagram stories mysteriously exclude you. Privacy? Maybe. Hiding? Likely.  

4. One-Sided Effort
   You initiate every text, date, or heartfelt conversation. Your needs feel like an inconvenience.  

5. Emotional Unavailability
   Deep conversations hit a wall. She’s charming but guarded, keeping you at arm’s length.  

What to Do If You’re an Extra
1. Have the Talk
   Clarity is kindness. Ask directly: “What do you want from this?” If she hesitates, that’s your answer.  

2. Evaluate Reciprocity  
   Love shouldn’t be a solo performance. If you’re giving 80% and getting 20%, it’s time to reroute your energy.  

3. Set Boundaries
   Stop being perpetually available. If she wants you, she’ll step up. If not, you’ve saved yourself months of maybes.  

4. Know When to Walk Away
   You deserve a starring role. Don’t audition forever for someone who’s not casting you as the lead.  

Closing Scene: You Deserve to Be the Lead**  
Every great love story has mutual passion, respect, and commitment. If you’re settling for scraps of attention, ask yourself: Why? You’re worthy of a love that’s bold, intentional, and *certain*. Don’t fear the exit—it might just lead you to a story where you’re unquestionably the main character.  

Final Line: Life’s too short for bit parts. Demand a leading love—or write your own script. 💫  #  Dating Coach @Phiniace Nyagah Kariri.

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